James Marmer

James Alan Marmer

December 11, 1953 - April 9, 2024
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    Friday, April 12th, 2024 | 12:00pm
    Friday, April 12th, 2024 12:00pm
    Beth El Memorial Park
    9701 Liberty Road
    Randallstown, MD 21133
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  • Shiva

    Family Residence
    11 Ruby Field Court
    Baltimore, Maryland 21209
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    Immediately following interment, and continuing through Tuesday. Shiva services will be at 7:00 pm on Sunday, Monday and Tuesday.


Donations are being accepted for:
St. Elizabeth School

801 Argonne Drive
, Baltimore, MD 21218

Abilities Network

8503 Lasalle Road
, Towson, MD 21286


James 'Jay' Alan Marmer, of Baltimore, Maryland, passed away on Tuesday, April 9th, 2024, at the age of 70. He is survived by his beloved wife, Ellen Marmer (nee Berlin); children, David Marmer, and Andrew Marmer (Lindsay Garten); mother, Shirley Marmer Kern; sisters, Barbara (Dale) Joyner, and Leslie (Jon) Davidson; and granddaughter, Julia Marmer. He was predeceased by his father, Irving Marmer (z"l).

Jay was beloved by all who knew him and can only be described as a true mensch. He was always interested in learning about people and imparting his wisdom to others. After retiring as a Human Resources Executive, Jay took pride in his retirement job, teaching Human Resource Management at Stevenson University and volunteering on the board of trustees at St. Elizabeth School. Teaching was his passion and he was incredibly invested in the success of his students. His greatest pride were his sons David and Andy and he enjoyed nothing more than spending time and being papa to his beloved granddaughter Julia.

Services at Beth El Memorial Park 9701 Liberty Road Randallstown, MD 21133, on Friday, April 12th, 2024, at 12:00 pm. Please omit flowers. Contributions in his memory may be sent to St. Elizabeth School, 801 Argonne Dr, Baltimore, MD 21218, or to Abilities Network, 8503 Lasalle Rd, Towson, MD 21286. The family will be in mourning at 11 Ruby Field Court, Baltimore, Maryland 21209 immediately following interment Friday and continuing through Tuesday. Shiva services will be at 7:00 pm on Sunday, Monday and Tuesday.
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We encourage you to share your most beloved memories of James here, so that the family and other loved ones can always see it.


Logan Beaty

Posted at 02:30pm
Professor Marmer was one of my favorite professors at the University. I took one of his classes a year ago and I remember how sweet he was to our class. Not only was he sweet to us in general but he knew all of his students on an individual level. After every quiz we took in his class, he would email me personally and congratulate me on how well I had done. He did this with every single quiz we took. I have never had a professor do that before. Professor Marmer really was one of those professors that makes an impact on students, and they will remember their moments with him forever. My condolences go out to his family and friends. He will be missed.

Jordan Guth

Posted at 02:59pm
Professor Marmer was by far the most impactful professor/teacher I have ever had. I was lucky enough to take three of his courses during my time at Stevenson. Jay genuinely cared about each and every one of his students and was the most kindhearted human one would ever meet. I stayed after class to talk with him almost every day about my internship, HR topics, etc. I'll continue to grow as a person and HR professional in his memory. May he rest in peace and my thoughts go out to his family.

Laura Geissler

Posted at 08:22am
Dear Marmar Family,
Please accept my sincere condolences for the loss of your wonderful Jay. I had the pleasure of working with him on the St. Elizabeth School Board. Upon hearing of Jay's death, I remarked about Jay that he was a "builder up" person. Always complimentary and you always felt better after an interaction with Jay. This past fall, he asked me to come and speak with his Stevenson class on the Organization and Leadership development work that I do in my career. It was so clear to see the honor and respect his class had for him. After speaking with the group, he took me on a tour of the beautiful building and gave me a coffee mug. Later that week at the SES Board meeting he publicly thanked me and told the board that I was the "real deal!" So very kind. Jay - my friend, YOU were the real deal! May you Rest in Peace Jay, and may your family forever speak your name and cherish all the memories they have of you.

Yolanda (Hardison) James

Posted at 04:20pm
Rest in Peace dear Jay Marmer…. Because if you our senior year at Alexander Hamilton High School in Los Angeles was the best. You exhibited Kaheelawanie Pride that inspired us all… to your family, my condolences. Job well done Jay Marmer 💚🤍💚🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️

Jane West Walsh

Posted at 12:38pm
Dear Ellen,
Jay was always so kind and welcoming to me, especially as a new widow in recent years, as we shared holidays and celebrations as part of your wonderful circle of dear friends and neighbors. Just now I can see his sweet smile and recall his thought-provoking stories shared with us around the table. I am grateful to have known him and his memory will continue to be a blessing in my life. May you be comforted among the mourners of Zion,


Posted at 12:36pm
Ellen-I am so very sorry. Such a good guy. He will be missed and his memory will be for a blessing

Brianna Chaffin

Posted at 10:03am
I have some found memories of my class with professor Marmer. He was very dedicated to teaching and we all loved his special guests who would present to us and his human resources scenarios where he would throw himself on the floor and fake cry when we had to pretend to fire him. He also loved his family, every week he gives the class updates on how his granddaughter was doing and he loved to talk about everyone in his family. He will be missed by many.

Jaci Friedlander

Posted at 12:45am
Dear Ellen and family,
Bobby and I are so deeply saddened to hear about the loss of your beloved Jay. We always loved seeing Jay in the neighborhood. We have so many wonderful memories of our times when Lucky and Louie would play together or seeing Jay on his walks. We enjoyed our conversations so much. Jay was always a joy to talk to. He was so interested in hearing about our family and so proud of his wonderful family. He will be greatly missed. Sending our love, prayers and condolences to you all.
Jaci and Bobby Friedlander

Samantha Rosenberg

Posted at 10:56pm
Dear Ellen, David, Andy and Family,

I am so sorry for your loss. Jay was a treasure and pure delight to work with and for. I enjoyed our conversations about HR, family and sports! I enjoyed our email conversations over the years since we no longer worked together and what always stood out was how invested he was in everyone around him. He loved telling me about everyone in your family and I truly loved the holiday letters each year (and told him I missed them when he stopped writing them)! Jay had a heart of gold and I will truly miss him. May his memory be a blessing.

Linda Lilly

Posted at 05:46pm
Dear Ellen and Family,
Please accept my condolences. There are no words to express my sadness for your loss. I’m holding you in my thoughts, prayers, and heart.
Linda Lilly

Monica and Eyal Talor

Posted at 11:59am
Ellen, Andy and David
No words can express our sadness today and for the coming days. Jay was the best dad and husband and the best friend to our family. Jay filled a room with his laugher, his wisdom and love of people.
May his memory be a blessing to you all! We will miss him terribly!

Courtney Wysokowski

Posted at 11:39am
Professor Marmer was my favorite professor here at Stevenson. He was a compassionate man who took a strong interest in all of his students. He was an honest, funny and caring human being and his impact on this world has not gone unnoticed. He has made an incredible impact on my life personally and I will take his teachings both from the classroom and from life to guide my career and future endeavors. RIP to the best man and professor!

Ruth Kantor and Bob Steinberg

Posted at 10:15am
Dear Ellen and Family:
Ruthie and I are heartbroken. Jay was an incredible man, warm, kind, always interested in others. Talking to him during his daily walks was such a joy for us. We were always so happy that he was our neighbor. What a guy and what a terrible loss for you and so many who loved him. We pray that the time will not be distant when you will remember him with a smile instead of a tear.

Kimberly Harrison

Posted at 10:14am
Professor Marmer was an amazing professor, he loved talking about his family in class whenever he could. He was a kind and amazing person.

beth el congregation

Posted at 09:23am
The Officers, Board of Trustees and Staff of Beth El Congregation express a deep sense of loss on the passing of our member, James Marmer. May his memory be for a blessing.

Chava Weinheber

Posted at 09:22am
I met Professor Marmar when he asked me to guest lecturer for his class. I gladly took up the challenge and boy was I happy I did! Not only did I have fun, but I made a new friend, got to connect with a colleague and see what an amazing and caring teacher he was. He walked into the room and everyone paid attention, not because he demanded it, but because the students respected him and were engaged in what he was teaching. He wanted to make sure that they were set up for success, and that they could go out into the real world and hit the ground running. Jay had such a positive attitude even though there was a lot going on in his life. He will truly be missed.

Michael Thorne

Posted at 09:11am
On behalf of St. Elizabeth School and its Board of Trustees, I would like to express how deeply missed Jay will be. All of us will be forever grateful for Jay's 12+ years of volunteer service at St. Elizabeth School where he served as the Board of Trustees' Leadership Committee Chair, Executive Director Search Committee Chair, and Executive Committee member. Jay offered the school a wealth of human resources experience, guidance, and advice and was always one of the first Board members to show his support for school activities and events. We are so grateful to Jay for his expertise, but even more for his embodiment of the Franciscan values upon which the school was founded. Jay was a role model for what we should all aspire to be.

On a more personal note, when I recount the people who have changed the trajectory of my life for the better, Jay Marmer is without a doubt at the top of that list. Jay cared for everyone; however, once he "adopted" you into his circle of family and friends, he would move heaven and earth to take care of you. (If you know, you know.) Since hearing the news of his passing, I have felt such a profound loss, yet I am also feeling eternally grateful for the seven years that I had Jay in my life. He was so many things to so many people, and he had a way of making everyone he met feel special and valued. To me, he was a wonderful friend, an unsurpassed mentor, and in many ways, a steadfast father figure. I liked him and knew we would be friends from the very moment I met him. I will miss his hilarious (often self-deprecating) sense of humor; his tales about history, visiting Presidential Libraries, and his brief foray into fishing; the way his face would light up when he talked about his family and the trips they took together; his entertaining emails that always started with "how ya doing?"; the fun times we had trying out local restaurants together; and the way he always gave me a reassuring nod of support when I was nervous at the Board meetings we attended together. That list could go on and on. How lucky I am to have known such an amazing yet humble human being and to be able to call him my friend. I know that I will continue to miss him for the rest of my days.

Zachary Downes

Posted at 08:55am
Professor Marmer and i shared many lengthy conversations after class that will stick with me for time to come. he was one of the few HR classes that no matter what the section was, i looked forward to going. i had him various semesters and even his last semester at stevenson. he told us he’d be taking a semester off to focus on his health and was going to try to be at our graduation. 2 days ago i wrote up an email to send to him just to check up and see if he was going to be able to make our graduation :(. my condolences to his friends and family. he was a great person who cared about many of his students on a personal level.

Emma DeCarli

Posted at 08:53am
Professor Marmer was one of the best professors I have had at Stevenson. He always would light up the room no matter what. He cared so much for his students and even helped us when he did not need to. He was one of the happiest people I have know. He was a great soul and I am so sorry for your loss. He will be greatly missed.

Aly Yates

Posted at 08:49am
Professor Marmer was by far the most impactful Professor I’ve ever had. I always looked forward to his class and had a good time. He most definitely shaped my management skills and I believe it is because of him that I am so passionate and excited about pursuing a management career. Professor Marmer touched so many young students lives including mine and I will forever be grateful for having the opportunity to know and learn from him. Sending my prayers and condolences!

Elliot & Fraeda Lewis

Posted at 07:15am
Dear Ellen, David, Andy &Family,
We’re very saddened by the loss of Jay. He was an exceptional husband, father, and friend. It’s been a long time since we’ve seen each other, but our fondness for him has never dimmed. Our memories of his leading the neighborhood children in sandlot ball, telling one of his interesting stories, or doing activities with David & Andy are still very vivid. We might not “always have Paris” as they said in the Movie Casa Blanca, but we’ll always have Holden Beach! Our memories of Jay will always be fond ones.Unfortunately we will not be able to see you in this sad time because we are still in our winter home in Florida, but our thoughts are with you. May Jay rest in peace, and may his memory be a blessing to the family and all who knew him! Elliot & Fraeda

VJ Iannone

Posted at 06:51am
I am so very sorry to hear of Jay's passing. Jay was such a wonderful man and was such a blessing to our students at Stevenson University. In all my time at the institution, I only heard wonderful and kind words from our students about what a great professor he was and what a difference he made in their lives. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you all during this difficult time.

Wally & Ina

Posted at 01:10am
Jay’s memory will be for a blessing for all of us who knew him and rejoiced being with him.

Wally & Ina

Posted at 01:07am
Dearest Ellen, David and Andy and family
J. was one of the most amazing People we’ve ever met. His joy for life and all of those around him, near and far, where the source of his joy and pride, his strength and dealing with adversity would be featured by his picture in Wikipedia. Never ever was there an unkind word or selfish moment.

Davant Perkins

Posted at 11:27pm
Professor Marmer was always the light that I needed through my long day of classes. I remember when he would miss a couple of classes because of his doctor checkups but he always returned the following class with even more energy and vibrancy. He even checked on me after my shoulder surgery that caused me to miss a whole week of class. Professor Marmer was someone I always looked up to from the very first moment of his class. He truly will be missed and I send my condolences to his loved ones! You guys were so fortunate to have such a great soul and man in your lives.

Kobie Barna

Posted at 11:25pm
I don’t have a specific “best” memory of Professor Marmer, but that’s because every class was a great one. He was a professor dedicated to teaching students while keeping high energy. I had him for one of his last semesters teaching, and even on his worst days, he would never skip a beat. He would always start and end the class with a smile, and always provided a healthy and fun learning environment. I will remember the stories he told us forever, he was one of the best. I am grateful I got to meet him, my only regret is not doing so sooner. He will be greatly missed.


Posted at 11:25pm
One of the many things I remember about my time with Professor Marmer is that he is one of the very few professors who immediately tried to remember everyone’s name in the class. It really showed his character because everyone that knew him knew that he cared about everyone he came into contact with.

Robin and Brian Rubin

Posted at 11:18pm
Dear Ellen, Andy and Hunk
There are truly no words to describe how sad we are to hear the news of Jay’s passing. What a true gentleman he was. Kind, caring, loving and a man who took such pride in his family. The many Sundays we would run into Jay and “Hunk” at Wegmans will always be a lasting memory. Please know Brian and I are here in anyway that we can help. We love you all. May Jay’s memory bring your heart peace in the days to come. With our love

Binyomin & Yocheved Goldenberg and Family

Posted at 10:28pm
We were heartbroken to hear that Jay had passed away. We all adored him and we will miss him so much. My kids waited by the front door in the morning for him to pass by to talk to him. He had so much patience and always made my kids feel so special.

We feel privileged to have known Jay and we will always remember him as being a true mensch!

Erin Stern

Posted at 09:30pm
Dear Ellen, David, Andy and family, I am heartbroken to hear about the passing of Jay. He was a wonderful man and father. I always loved seeing him and just recently at Wegmans with David. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. May his memory be a blessing. Erin (Sapperstein) Stern

Zamira Simkins

Posted at 08:20pm
On behalf of Jay Marmer’s colleagues and students at Stevenson University, I am writing to extend our deepest condolences to his family. Jay started teaching HR and other business courses at Stevenson in Fall 2019. He walked into every class with a big smile, a clear lesson plan, and infectious enthusiasm. He always set high standards for himself and his students but also went out of his way to support and mentor each student. He also was an amazing colleague, always willing to lend a helping hand or a word of advice and encouragement. He was truly an inspiration to all around him!

Jay was an amazing teacher, colleague, mentor, and friend. His legacy will continue to live in all the students and colleagues he has worked with. May his memory be a blessing.

Fran Rosensweig

Posted at 08:19pm
Ellen, David and Andy,
Jeff and I are so sorry for your loss. Our sincere condolences to your entire family.

Anna Kayes

Posted at 06:47pm
Jay was my wonderful faculty colleague at Stevenson University. I always looked forward to our talks about teaching, and human resources, and his joy for helping his students was contagious. My utmost condolences to your family, he left a positive impact on everyone he was around.

Dan Horowitz

Posted at 05:27pm
I knew Jay in high school and he was always a very nice guy and very friendly. He had a kind heart. I did not know him in his adult life, but it sounds like he did great things and accomplished a lot. My deepest condolences. Go out to Jay‘s family and his friends, he will be missed

Linda, Samantha, Adam, Micah & Caleb

Posted at 05:04pm
Dear Ellen, David, Andy, Lindsay, Julia & Family,
Jay was a marvelous person. He always made anyone he was with feel so special and cared for. Our fondest memories are ones at the pool with David and when he walked by the house and admired the boys, as well as breaking fast together at Donna’s. May the time not be distant when loving memories elicit a smile and not a tear. He will be missed by all.

Bob Anbinder

Posted at 03:35pm
Jay Marmer was one of the most decent and honorable, giving and family-centered men I have met in my entire life. I will think of him and miss him for the rest of my life. This is so sad.

Peter Waxler

Posted at 03:27pm
I am heartbroken over the loss of my dearest friend of 60 years. Jay and I either phoned or texted each other every day for years, discussing sports, high school memories, current events, our common medical issues, and our families. I am at a real loss without this fantastic man in my life. His memory will be with me forever. I loved him like a brother.

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